You Only Live Once Business and Style book -- PREFACE


Every part of you wants you to win

I write this as I sit here in Whistler, British Columbia, smiling and filled to the brim with gratitude, enjoying a panoramic view of a snow-covered lake and horizon, birthing this book for you while learning how to snowboard on my toes!

It’s real

I am living my YOLO (You Only Live Once) Life. Living out what I dare to dream.

As I was looking for inspiration to start this section, I got distracted cleaning up my phone. I was clicking through my files and one of the recordings started

to play. I let it continue in the background.

It was a six-month-old call with my coach, a petite Asian woman whom I had hired two years previously. When I was introduced to her, she was in her early 20s and already running a successful six-figure coaching business online, making an impact doing what she loved and traveling wherever she wanted. I wanted that business lifestyle.

The weird thing was, it was the call during which I declared that I wanted to write a book and make it fun. When my coach asked me, “What would that look like?” I said it would look like snowboarding in Whistler and writing my book at the same time because I am committed to fun, freedom, and inspired connection.

And here I am, once again, fulfilling my dreams.

The truth is, I love my life. I live a life that seems too good to be true.

And it is true.

It has been over two years since I left my cushy advertising and marketing job to pursue my passion. I have lived in four countries and I coach clients on five continents. It humbles me every day to support incredible women and men as they expand into their fullest selves, pursuing their dream lives, loves, and meaningful careers.

In addition to living the life of an international businesswoman connected to an international community of people fully living their lives and sharing their unique gifts, I am experiencing the greatest love with the greatest love story, which caught me completely by surprise!

As part of my YOLO Lifestyle, I went to Shanghai American School’s high school reunion, and the magical reunion love story played out. I fell deeply in love with a guy I had dated when I was 16 while living in Shanghai. After ‘hating’ him for more than a decade because of how things had ended, we picked up where we left off: with a fight over a misunderstanding. This time, surprisingly, with all the growth we had experienced, we were able to talk things out and deeply see and hear each other for what seemed like the first time! My zest for adventure, freedom, and growth was also matched, so much so that my previous idea of having a boyfriend in every country came to an end and I chose him. Three months later, I moved all of my things out of

Singapore and now live in Hong Kong. Two months later, I flew to British Columbia to

snowboard and write this book and he is 100% supportive of my going for my dreams.

How did my life get so good? Well, it had to or I was going to die. My unhappiness was literally killing me.

I have a secret that I’ve kept for 10 years. Not even my parents or past boyfriends who lived with me knew it. Do you see how every part of you wants you to win?

From dream job to uncertainty and healing

I still remember the evening when I was doing overtime earlier in my career at one of the best corporate marketing and advertising firms. I was staring into the toilet bowl in one of the private bathrooms, expertly and silently letting out what was inside of me, then feeling a sense of relief and shame after.

My 10-year on-and-off top-secret bulimia was back. And this time, I knew why. I wasn’t happy anymore. Despite the glamor, prestige, and regional leadership opportunities with the biggest client in our firm, my heart yearned for more meaning. And the worst thing: I knew I was capable of more but was too afraid to make drastic changes.

I was beyond angry. I was so defeated. My health was getting worse.

I said to myself, “I worked on this for 10 years, countless hours poured into therapy, and even worked with a Qi Master closely for five years, and this STILL isn’t gone?”

“How am I to live the life I dream of if I can’t even control this part of my life?”

“Why?!” I asked myself.

Immediately, a wave of realization washed over me. “Yep, I know,” I sighed.“I have to do more of what I love.”

I had begun writing my YOLO Happy List in 2011, and by 2014, I was fully taking on what made me happy in my hours away from work.

It was in this moment of self-reflection that it became clear: when I was traveling and doing what I loved, bulimia wasn’t an issue. But when I was back home, so was the bulimia. So, more YOLO Happy List it was. Completing things on my list kept me going.

I didn’t have the guts to take the plunge at that point. I need more certifications and confidence, I thought, despite the four coaching training courses, countless certifications, a Master’s of Science in Innovation, and numerous personal transformation courses I had invested in as a result of this quest to heal.

I have to change myself and solve this behavior before I can shift others, I commanded myself.

Have you ever had an addiction or important reason that’s standing in your way, front and center, preventing you from doing something greater?

Since the next thing on my bucket list was to live my YOLO Lifestyle making money doing what I loved, and my biggest obstacle was internal, I did everything I could to create the most supportive setting possible for myself as I embarked on that journey. The name of the game was to be healthy.

While I continued to work on six-figure deals for my corporate job by day, behind the scenes my entire life was changing. I went from no exercise to going to the gym religiously and waking up at 6:30 every single morning before work (mostly yoga in the morning and fitness in the afternoon) and from sleeping at random times to going to bed before 11:30pm. And, of course, I changed my diet to be healthy breakfast and lunch items with clean food for dinner. It was awesome. I finally decided to take responsibility for my life and make the changes that would create the best version of me!

But that wasn’t enough.

When push came to shove, even after achieving that flow (which lasted about six months when I was reinvigorated at work as well), there was still an underlying buzz of anxiety whenever I had quiet time to myself. There was a huge disconnect between my ideal lif